Who's In Control?

Rough Draft:
http://radio.weblogs.com/0001011/2004/11/11.html#a8615
Scoble took a link off of his blog because someone expected a link on his blog.

A friend I know intentionally sat in their seat for an extended period of time because someone yelled at them and demanded that they move.

So who's in control here? Do we feel like we're in control just because we did the opposite of what someone asked? I suggest that the other person is still in control in the two examples above. We're only in control if we make our own decisions for our own reasons, not as a reaction to someone else.